In life happiness It is the most valuable feeling. We want to be happy. It's very strange to have someone tell you that it's okay to be miserable. It is very important that the United States Constitution provides the pursuit of happiness As a basic principle that must be guaranteed.
However, it is a very vague statement. How can we be happy? “There is a misconception that happiness is natural and nothing could be further from the truth.“It is clear Professor Floyd Shelton, biochemist And Director of the Nutrition and Wellness Center in University of Arizona.
How to break the cycle of unhappiness
To be happy you have to be miserable Or at least not be happy. explain. You can't know that you're happy if you don't know that you might not be. Life is not a straight emotional line, but it goes up and down. What we want is for it to go up as long as possible, and if it goes down, it should go down a little bit.
Professor Shelton started from A An anthropological study of our minds To understand how we achieve that happiness. He points out that our more primitive brain was created to protect us and survive. Although we no longer face the dangers of wildlife, we… The primitive mind suffers and feels anxious.
“Almost all of these feelings Sadness and stress go back to that primitive unconscious“, he explains.”We live in the fog of a nightmare, a nightmare created by the most instinctive part of our brain“.
To confront these miserable instincts, we must do our part. We force ourselves to think positively It may lead us to the happiness we so often seek. To achieve this, Professor Shelton created a theory Four steps.
1. Awaken our awareness
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You are already taking the first step from the moment you read this article. By being perfect You realize that you have an instinctive mind The primal that could play against you has already advanced.
This unconscious mind can cause a reflex reaction in us, which we cannot avoid, just as your leg goes up when a doctor hits you on the knee. In this case it is a reaction Loneliness and sadness.
Your conscious mind will tell you that everything is relative. Which Things can be fixed And most problems can be seen from another perspective. Look at the past. How big of a problem still exists?
Own this Double option To confront the problems of the primitive or conscious mind. You have to decide which one to pay attention to.
2. Dig deeper into what frustrates us
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Shelton talks about how we must be aware of “Dark rooms“. For example, if you see that you constantly have Negative thoughts On a specific topic. What you need to do is dig deeper into the time when this started happening to you.
If you think you can't get a better job or… You are pessimistic In relation to another type of goal in life. You think you won't be able to overcome the barrier. Find out when the first experience made you feel this way.
When you know where it comes from, you will be able to understand it better. Shelton himself is an example of this. He was diagnosed with dyslexia. “I felt sad, and I was successful“, he explains.”I know now that I don't have to stay in this misery, even though I know why it happens“.
3. Assume so
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Sometimes feelings arise that we cannot avoid. Show up and that's it. What we can do is be more aware of them. Meditation is a good tool To analyze why they appear and where they arise. And also to let them pass.
“Through awareness we know what is happening. We know the train is coming. A train of unconsciousness that He tells you: You are not worthy enoughShelton explains.You can get on this train and stay there for weeks, months, or even years You can decide that you will not continue“.
Those moments of calm that it gives us, for example, Complete focus of mind Or contemplation, allow us to assume possible options and make a choice.
4. Trust the journey
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The final stage of this process toward happiness that Shelton suggests is believing in it You are where you are for a reasonYou have to trust that things will happen the way they are supposed to happen.
The advice is not to try to resist the development of events tooth and nail. Let yourself go with the flow. It's Bruce Lee's famous “Be Water” song. Adapting to the future.
“If you do this, the flow of the river will do wonders for you. Good things will happen to you eventually. I know this doesn't sound very scientific, but there is something spiritual to this process as well.“Concludes Shelton.
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